I'm feeling a lot inspired and a little required to branch out into soft domme - while my decade in pegging has been ultra rewarding, there's an itch I need to scratch around creativity that some new and exciting domme work might hit.
While on the one hand I feel very much a dominant woman (assertive, decisive, ultra-picky), there's aspects of dominance that've been a major turn off for a long time: degradation, serious humiliation (beyond teasing or playfulness), and authentic sadism or cruelty. I've never been inclined that way in my dominance - my dominance seeks to liberate people and build them up, to help them achieve goals and make them more authentically 'themselves'.
It's hard to call someone a 'loser' or 'worthless' when you have great admiration for the courage it took for them to get in touch and book an appointment. They've invested in themselves and their own self growth and self pleasure and I have the utmost respect for that - how can you not?! But to find a place of nurturance and facilitation in that - that sounds incredibly appealing. To be a guide for a person's self-growth and self-exploration - that's what I'm on board for!
And so, to that end, I've gone online shopping and have several books on the way around female domination and topping. I want to find those pathways for my roots to grow or regrow into where the light of female domination shines for me. It's my hope to find my comfort as a dominant woman with submissive men, so we can each find equilibrium in our place in society, in a way that feels resistant and empowering for both of us.
Effective the end of April 2021, I'm done updating my OnlyFans. There's a few reasons why, but the main (and happiest!) one is that things are really busy in my 'day job' and my time and energy need to focus there.
I've got other personal sex industry projects brewing and I'm eager to get back to in-person, so it's likely this isn't the end of my naughty-for-pay days. The next few months my mind and body will be elsewhere, but in 3 months, or 6 months, or a year, life will bring me back.
To new adventures!
This has been the week of devastation in my personal tech realm that resulted in a new start.
First Twitter throttled my old handle (@therealemmariot) so I started up a brand new one that could get a little traction (@riot_emma). It's been wild, seeing the difference between a throttled account with 4000 followers versus an uncensored account with <100 followers - the new one is already streets ahead in terms of engagement. In order to keep from Twitter throttling my engagement, I'm going to have to be more careful about what kind of content I post on Twitter. From what I've gathered so far, they don't really like dildos, especially attached to a person, or any links to OnlyFans. This kind of defeats the whole purpose of using Twitter to promote business, but whatever, I'll work around it by redirecting through my website.
Then my laptop started overheating on the regular, which was progressively getting worse and worse, so I moved everything off of it (20,000 files - holy shit!) and reset to factory settings. That seems to have mostly dealt with the problem for now, so I've at least bought myself some time on that front.
In setting my laptop back up again I've gone ahead and switched over to a couple simple better security options. I've switched browsers away from Chrome to one that blocks ads and trackers and has an option to use Tor (mega-security, super lockdown browsing!). And moving forward I'm storing all my important stuff on external drives, in part to prevent the overheating issue and in part to keep everything more secure.
On top of that, I also somehow found time this week to start spewing out into an online space about a new venture I've had rattling around in my brain, so that's been fun. I'm not committed to following through (yet), but it's been really rewarding to use my business juices to build something new!
All in all, a dynamic week, that feels a lot like new growth after a fire. Like a phoenix, I rise from the ashes.
No, I'm not taking bookings.
The answer to the question of the week!
My day job is covering my expenses. Expenses are down, because it's harder to go out. And I have family in town and at least a couple members of my family are in high risk groups for COVID-19, so I'm not exactly rushing out to take every appointment.
Add on top of that the way I saw people acting like everything's back to normal when I went out to pick up some online purchases from retail stores today and, y'know what, I'm kinda good! I don't believe screening clients will protect me from infection, so I'm going to take the approach that will - not exposing myself to the possibility at all. For now.
I hope I can get back to pegging this summer, because there's an awful lot of craving out there for it, but let's let loose when we can really let loose and make it a special experience!
!I've been encouraged by a few people now to start a blog, so here goes, and I'm starting where many of my clients do when they're getting to know me: how did I get into pegging?
In my early 20's I briefly worked as a stripper and one day I had a client who bought a private dance from me brought it up. He noticed me because of my strappy black outfit that night, which made me look more dominant or kinky. He asked if I would be interested in stripping, which I was, so we negotiated a fair rate and that he would cover the costs of buying me a harness and dildo. We made our arrangements.
We met up at a friendly feminist sex shop to buy the strap-on, then headed to his boat, where we shared our time together. I had my first prodomme session as a pegging session, making it my gateway to professional kink.
A few years later I went through a breakup and was rediscovering my sexuality when I decided I wanted to explore pegging more. I realized I could charge to do this, so I put up an ad on Backpage and off I went.
That was late 2012 and I've been pegging ever since! I've seen a lot of clients, with a variety of pegging preferences, and I've managed to make it a happy niche for myself!
By Emma Riot
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