INCALLS AND INCALLS AND INCALLS
The dust is finally setting on the Great Incall Shakeup of 2023 and I'll be updating my site soon with finalized details. Moving forward, it looks like the options will be:
As of this shakeup, rent for a one bedroom apartment in Vancouver is $2787/month, so this on its own should help explain why locations have been up in the air and why you can see providers' rates - including mine! - going up this year. Add to this the inflation around groceries and the bare basic costs of getting by are taking a toll on providers' costs of living and access to the basics we need to provide tip-top service to our clients.
To make it easier to choose a location, I hope to get photos of these locations soon, so you can make the best choice about where you'd like to meet me when I'm hosting you for a session. Due to the costs of rentals, these spaces are less glamorous than they used to be, but at higher costs. If you'd like to see me in higher end locations, consider hosting at your home or hotel or gifting me the cash to pay for a year-long commitment to a one-year lease in a high end location ($36K+).
I value and cherish my clients and am pleased as punch to be able to continue to provide safe and sexy private spaces for us to meet and get up to all kinds of naughty business!
Renewed erotic desire
I'm several tequilas and a shared cigar into my evening, so if this feels a little loose, now you know why.
This week I felt renewed. I'm in a faraway destination at a dear friend's wedding and had a hookup on the wedding night that's definitely for the books. Perhaps a little drunk, perhaps a little murky on the ethics and good decision-making, but holy smokes, do I ever feel restored!
He's a good man, with a good heart and good politics, who treated me with respect and honor, and he let me fuck his ass before any other sexy things got too far. It was very back-and-forth, with erotic desire oozing from every moment. A little carried away with the spirit of the evening, we ended up back in his room, getting all into each other in his bed for the week. At one point a condom was opened and place on the nightstand, and, having checked in on his experience and interest in butt play (yes and yes!), I flipped the script and snagged the condom, rolling it onto my finger and penetrating him before he ever got close to penetrating me. My pussy wet from the excitement I felt, I pressed onto his prostate over and over, erotic energy flowing and building as he enjoyed each moment.
I told him how much it turns me on to penetrate him, how hot I am about fucking him before we even consider him fucking me. He didn't know who I am, didn't know what I do, and he gave himself up to me this way openly and with an equity that only lifted my erotic desire for every part of him.
If you've ever had life-shifting sex, you might know what I went through that night. With the simple act of trusting me with his body and with this experience, he entrusted me with his body and beyond. I didn't know that 'in real life' this was possible - like so many of my clients, this hasn't exactly made for first date discussion material. It wasn't exactly a first date either though. For me, this was an experience that shifted my perspective on what's possible and available in this big, bold, beautiful world. That with honesty, directness, and communication, having your erotic desires met could be so satisfying between men and women, with minimal talk in between.
It's been 48 hours and my body still feels charged. I want more. I want to take this feeling back home with me - back to my work and to my everyday. I want to share this feeling with everyone I encounter, I want everyone in the world to feel this elation.
If you book me when I get home, know that you'll be getting the best of me, in 100% true form. I can't wait to get home and aim to share this experience through touch and talk and every sensual experience I have the joy to experience. If you're anyone, whether booking me or not, know that having your needs and desires met is possible, I can now promise you this is true.
Moving - new space
I'll be moving to a new space in February 2023, so don't be surprised if I have less availability than usual!
I'm hopeful I'll be able to convert a portion of my new place into an area where I can see clients in a discreet setting. Plans for the space include soundproofing, floor mats, sex furniture, and maybe - just maybe - a sexy new set up with a sex swing for being able to peg you in comfy new positions that allow maximum access!
After moving, I'll be out of town for most of March, so if you wanna book for the next couple of months, get your requests in now to ensure satisfaction!
If you'd like to financially assist me during this dynamic time, I'm always grateful to receive etransfers, Amazon gift cards, and, to help set up some innovative and sexy new furnishings, Etsy gift cards.
Thanks always to all clients for their patience and to my wonderful regulars who help make all this possible! <3
On soft domme
I'm feeling a lot inspired and a little required to branch out into soft domme - while my decade in pegging has been ultra rewarding, there's an itch I need to scratch around creativity that some new and exciting domme work might hit.
While on the one hand I feel very much a dominant woman (assertive, decisive, ultra-picky), there's aspects of dominance that've been a major turn off for a long time: degradation, serious humiliation (beyond teasing or playfulness), and authentic sadism or cruelty. I've never been inclined that way in my dominance - my dominance seeks to liberate people and build them up, to help them achieve goals and make them more authentically 'themselves'.
It's hard to call someone a 'loser' or 'worthless' when you have great admiration for the courage it took for them to get in touch and book an appointment. They've invested in themselves and their own self growth and self pleasure and I have the utmost respect for that - how can you not?! But to find a place of nurturance and facilitation in that - that sounds incredibly appealing. To be a guide for a person's self-growth and self-exploration - that's what I'm on board for!
And so, to that end, I've gone online shopping and have several books on the way around female domination and topping. I want to find those pathways for my roots to grow or regrow into where the light of female domination shines for me. It's my hope to find my comfort as a dominant woman with submissive men, so we can each find equilibrium in our place in society, in a way that feels resistant and empowering for both of us.
Return to Pegging
There's a romance to the in-person pegging session that's hard to describe.
The nervousness and excitement as he comes in, uncertain of what he'll find.
The melting of tension as he finds himself in trustworthy hands with an experienced, sensual professional.
The easing of tension as I make jokes, we laugh, we share a few moments of being human before we become primal.
The way he melts under my touch, his muscles softening with each caress.
The easing of tense ass muscles as my fingers work gently and with reverence.
The soft gasp or moan when I penetrate.
The absorbed heavy breathing of trying to take in and enjoy every single moment as I fuck him tenderly but firmly, my entire self committed to this experience.
This is so perfect and no online or virtual experience can fulfill this desire for me. There's something so human, so primal about being able to create this experience with bare hands and a strap-on. The way we transport to our own little universe together in that shared moment.
On stopping with OnlyFans
Effective the end of April 2021, I'm done updating my OnlyFans. There's a few reasons why, but the main (and happiest!) one is that things are really busy in my 'day job' and my time and energy need to focus there.
I've got other personal sex industry projects brewing and I'm eager to get back to in-person, so it's likely this isn't the end of my naughty-for-pay days. The next few months my mind and body will be elsewhere, but in 3 months, or 6 months, or a year, life will bring me back.
To new adventures!
This has been the week of devastation in my personal tech realm that resulted in a new start.
First Twitter throttled my old handle (@therealemmariot) so I started up a brand new one that could get a little traction (@riot_emma). It's been wild, seeing the difference between a throttled account with 4000 followers versus an uncensored account with <100 followers - the new one is already streets ahead in terms of engagement. In order to keep from Twitter throttling my engagement, I'm going to have to be more careful about what kind of content I post on Twitter. From what I've gathered so far, they don't really like dildos, especially attached to a person, or any links to OnlyFans. This kind of defeats the whole purpose of using Twitter to promote business, but whatever, I'll work around it by redirecting through my website.
Then my laptop started overheating on the regular, which was progressively getting worse and worse, so I moved everything off of it (20,000 files - holy shit!) and reset to factory settings. That seems to have mostly dealt with the problem for now, so I've at least bought myself some time on that front.
In setting my laptop back up again I've gone ahead and switched over to a couple simple better security options. I've switched browsers away from Chrome to one that blocks ads and trackers and has an option to use Tor (mega-security, super lockdown browsing!). And moving forward I'm storing all my important stuff on external drives, in part to prevent the overheating issue and in part to keep everything more secure.
On top of that, I also somehow found time this week to start spewing out into an online space about a new venture I've had rattling around in my brain, so that's been fun. I'm not committed to following through (yet), but it's been really rewarding to use my business juices to build something new!
All in all, a dynamic week, that feels a lot like new growth after a fire. Like a phoenix, I rise from the ashes.
Continuing to Pause
No, I'm not taking bookings.
The answer to the question of the week!
My day job is covering my expenses. Expenses are down, because it's harder to go out. And I have family in town and at least a couple members of my family are in high risk groups for COVID-19, so I'm not exactly rushing out to take every appointment.
Add on top of that the way I saw people acting like everything's back to normal when I went out to pick up some online purchases from retail stores today and, y'know what, I'm kinda good! I don't believe screening clients will protect me from infection, so I'm going to take the approach that will - not exposing myself to the possibility at all. For now.
I hope I can get back to pegging this summer, because there's an awful lot of craving out there for it, but let's let loose when we can really let loose and make it a special experience!
How to use Etransfers
I use deposits to confirm many bookings and I accept etransfers for payment. Here is guide for how to set up and use etransfers!
You will need to have access to online banking to do this. This is not a guide for how to set up online banking, come back to this if you need to do that.
This is also what my bank's website looks like - yours might look a little different, but similar steps should apply.
Step 1: Go to Interac etransfers
There should be an option for Interac etransfers, which might be under a heading called Transfers. Find this area.
Step 2: Add me to your recipient contacts
Put in my email address (use my contact page to get in touch with me if you don't have it) and set it up to send to my email.
I included my bank's details about etransfers here so you can see something important: it can take up to 30 minutes for an etransfer to send! This is why I prefer advance payment or cash - with my mind at ease, I can better focus on our time together! Another important thing is that, at least for my bank, there is no fee to send an etransfer.
Step 3: Set up the etransfer
Select me, enter the amount to send, pick which account to send from, and include a message if you like! Do not include the password in the message! (next step) Do not reference sexual services, or meeting up, or that this is a payment for something! You can write something nice like, "Thanks!" or "Enjoy!" depending on what you're sending for.
Step 4: Set up a security question
I suggest you use the option to create your own password question, then email or text me what it is. Enter it twice, then press continue.
Confirm the transfer and send!
I'll accept the etransfer and you may see a receipt from your bank confirming that I've received it. The money will be transferred to my bank account.
That's it! :)
How I Got Into Pegging
!I've been encouraged by a few people now to start a blog, so here goes, and I'm starting where many of my clients do when they're getting to know me: how did I get into pegging?
In my early 20's I briefly worked as a stripper and one day I had a client who bought a private dance from me brought it up. He noticed me because of my strappy black outfit that night, which made me look more dominant or kinky. He asked if I would be interested in stripping, which I was, so we negotiated a fair rate and that he would cover the costs of buying me a harness and dildo. We made our arrangements.
We met up at a friendly feminist sex shop to buy the strap-on, then headed to his boat, where we shared our time together. I had my first prodomme session as a pegging session, making it my gateway to professional kink.
A few years later I went through a breakup and was rediscovering my sexuality when I decided I wanted to explore pegging more. I realized I could charge to do this, so I put up an ad on Backpage and off I went.
That was late 2012 and I've been pegging ever since! I've seen a lot of clients, with a variety of pegging preferences, and I've managed to make it a happy niche for myself!
By Emma Riot
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